How to Get Centered: Be the Pilot of Your Ship from Essential Energy Tools by Gayle Kimball
We’ve seen some demonstration that thoughts have an
effect, the subject of scientific study, not just New Age wishful
thinking. Let’s put these powers to use. Energy tools are like learning
to ride a bike. At first you had to think hard about staying balanced,
pedaling, and holding on to the handle bars, but then it all
came together, and you cruised effortlessly. Use energy tools with
the same ease, enjoyment, and fun. As one of my students, Steffy,
reports, “I’m discovering that feeling energy shifts are subtle and
the less I concentrate on them, the more I notice them.”
To get centered, take deep breaths from your diaphragm,
rather than your upper chest. Put your hands on the abdomen and
on the ribs at the lower back to make sure you’re breathing into
your lower lungs. As you exhale slowly, drop your shoulders and
jaws to relax. Let your muscles soften and feel heavy. Keep your
tongue resting above your two top front teeth where the acupressure
point connects the front (Central) and back (Governing)
meridians and circulates energy throughout the body.
Taking slow deep breaths from your abdomen helps to
ground and relax and bring in more chi lifeforce. Much more oxygen
is brought into the lungs this way than shallow breathing from
the upper chest, which the body associates with stress. Think of
filling all 75 yards of surface area in your lungs as you expand the
diaphragm to its full range of movement. If your stomach muscles
are tense, they inhibit the movement of the diaphragm as it rises
and falls, so the belly should be relaxed. To learn more techniques,
see Gay Hendricks’ Conscious Breathing.
Hendricks reports the body is designed to release 70 percent
of its toxins through breathing and that most of the blood circulation
is in the bottom third of the lungs. This area can hold onquart of oxygen, compared to only one cup in the upper chest.
Breathing deeply can free up repressed emotions as it moves body
armoring previously left undisturbed. If kept in, these feelings can
eventually implode within creating illness, or explode in an accident
or unwise confrontation with others.
Breathe in for the count of six, hold for six, and exhale six
counts from your mouth. Focus on the exhalation to relax and the
inhalation to energize. Try circular breathing, where you imagine
breathing in from the base of spine to the top of your head, and
exhale, imagining breath moving down the front of the body to the
base of the spine and continue. Use your breath to bring in the
color your body needs now and to exhale grunge. Just ask what
color and you’ll get a response, or pick one you like. Breathe in
from the lower lungs, hold, and exhale as if through a straw to clear
Yoga teaches pranic breathing as a way to get centered.
Inhale through the right nostril, use the thumb to close the right
nostril, and exhale from the left. Inhale through the left, close the
left nostril with the index finger, exhale out the right, and continue.
If it’s difficult to sit still, add awareness of your breath with walking,
breathing in as you lift the heal of one foot, exhaling as you put your
heel down, and so on.
Another way to center is with your imagination, creating a
bubble of energy around you, the color your body wants. Ask and
you’ll know, or just pick a color and you’ll be accurate. Release
down from the bottom of the bubble and fill in with gold light from
the top. Define the energy bubble with colored roses, include
musical notes and tunes if you’re an auditory person, like Dihanna
who gets insights from old song lyrics that pop into her head.
At my meditation meeting this morning, Lavon says, I was
able to actually be in the golden bubble that you taught me. It
was spectacular. I was literally floating through the universe, in
an absolute state of abandonment. I was spread-eagled inside
the bubble, twisting and turning in all directions, with a sense
of freedom, a giant smile on my face, not worried about where
I was or where I was going. It was heavenly. After I changed
from the bubble, I was doing the business of being in the room in my head and the captain of my ship. My room has absolutely
no decorations but a calendar behind my chair for the date,
and the easy chair I sit in. Today, there was a coffee table,
which just appeared, and on the coffee table was a copy of the
book I had written, [in the future] because I could see my smiling
face on the inside cover.
A year later, her room changed in marvelous ways.
The right-sided wall has always been blank. It suddenly
emerged into a giant mural of a gorgeous butterfly in rich colors.
Very slowly that butterfly was trying to come loose and do
something. Simultaneously, the roof of my command room
became a crystal rose. The floor slowly evolved into a deep pile,
dark forest-green carpet, and the chair became a deep, rich
purple velvet. All of this color just started appearing, whereas
before it was nondescript furniture. One day, the butterfly got
loose and floated to the ceiling, which slowly opened into the
sky and a glowing yellow light came down. The butterfly flew to
the light, then the ceiling closed.
You can do a better job at work or playing sports if you’re
in the center of your head. This place is where you go to be clear,
without judgment of yourself or others, so that you can see the
truth. To play with energy, we need to be at the control station, like
a pilot sitting in the cockpit of a plane or a captain steering a boat.
Your command station is in the center of your head, near the pineal
and pituitary glands behind the “third eye” in the forehead. We do
all energy work from this place; it’s homebase when using energy
tools. It keeps you in the body, in the present where you can create
in this world, rather than being “spacey” or “out of it.”
Think, “be behind my eyes.” Put your fingers on your temples
towards the top of your ears and imagine a line of energy
between your fingers. Then put one finger in the middle of your
forehead and another finger on the back of your head. Imagine a
line of energy connecting between your fingers. The place where
these two lines cross each other is where you place your room.
Doing all your energy work from the center of your head
enables you to be in charge, clear, focused, neutral, and unbiased.
This focus keeps you in alignment with the neutral 6th chakra,
rather than operating from the emotional 2nd chakra. Bostwick
placed a premium on neutrality, meaning being non-judgmental of
yourself and others. It’s another way of saying be centered and
nonreactive. If you’re neutral, you can think clearly, unbiased by
unconscious emotional patterns. Meditation and doing clairvoyant
readings help achieve this clear space by cleaning out the old patterns,
or what Bostwick called “pictures.” We need clarity to
obtain perspective on to whom a problem really belongs to and
who can solve it. If I’m entwined with you, enmeshed, I can’t really
see you clearly or separate your issues from mine.
Some people think of neutrality as unfeeling, but the opposite
is true. You can experience greater depths of feeling when
you’re not in critical judgment, resistance, competition, fear or
effort. In neutrality you don’t have to try to control, judge, or fix
anything. An ancient Egyptian mural portrays Annubis, the god of
the underworld, holding a balanced scale with a recently deceased
person’s heart on one scale and a feather on the other. A heart full
of judgment is heavy, unlike a pure heart which lightly ascends to
In an energy tools class, Ethel’s habit was to mentally travel
over and see what was going on as I gave feedback on each person’s
energy field. This made Ethel feel sick to her stomach and
dizzy as she left her point of stability. It’s important to stay in your
command chair and observe by looking out on your reading
screen, creating an imaginary TV screen in front of your eyes,
rather than traveling out of your own space.
Be in the room in the center of your head, as a tool to stay
centered in your body. Where are you now? Above the body? In
your next task? A past event? Focusing on someone else? Come
back behind your eyes and between the ears. Imagine decorating
the room, putting in it what you want or simply a command chair,
the only requirement. Imagine being a king or queen with a crown
and staff to anchor you in the command chair. Create views from
your windows of the places you like the most. The ocean? The
John changes his room: “If I’m snowboarding, my room
looks like an extreme sports shop. If I’m on a date, it’s very GQ.”
Get out your crayons and draw the room with you in your chair
and post the drawing. It’s a reminder to take charge of your development,
rather than being reactive or “spacing out” of the body, as
described in songs about “out of my head over you, night and day.”
To see what being out of the body looks like, look at viewers
in a movie theater engrossed in the action on the screen, or
someone high on alcohol or drugs. Many people function out of the
body in that they aren’t in charge of their own lives. Imagine a command
station in front of your chair, like a pilot’s panel in a cockpit,
with colored lights representing your body. If all the lights are
green, good. If some flash red, ask each one what it stands for (perhaps
an organ or body system needs your attention) and what you
can do to restore it to green. Michele reports:
I imagine the center of my head; I decorated the room like
a New York City loft filled with contemporary attractive furniture.
I created a fainting couch to relax on, and a strong big
desk and big chair to operate from. I have a large window. I feel
very comfortable and safe in the center of my head.
I have a detection system set up to notice if anyone else
tries to join me in my space. They are kindly escorted to their
own personal party. Using this command center to retreat to
when I need to gather my thoughts, or make a decision, has
had tremendous benefits. I am able to instantly become calm
and I feel capable and powerful.
Jan’s room is “round, cave-like, a golden color, with an
earthen fireplace connected down to the earth. It’s secluded, very
private. The walls are soft and golden, like clay. I feel very protected,
and no one can intrude.” As she uses it each day, it gets more
Stephenie uses the room visualization as a meditation:
Just before I go to work in the morning I spend about fifteen
minutes in “my room.” I sit in my white goose-down chair in
the center and place yellow roses in the corners to brighten up
the room. I look out my window at a very peaceful sunny day
and the ocean. Just spending those fifteen minutes each morning
gives me a more positive and fresh outlook on the day. The
one thing about this exercise I enjoy the best is that I can keep
everyone out and have those fifteen minutes just for myself.
This is a subtle change but see if you notice a difference in
feeling centered. If you have a difficult time being in the room,
floating above it, move it down and back a bit. To help stay strongly
in the command chair, imagine putting on a jeweled crown and
holding the staff representing your authority in your domain. To
purify your room, imagine squeezing the floor up to the ceiling,
pushing any junk out a drain pipe in the corners.
A way for a healer to tell if someone is in her command
center is to gently put two fingers on the forehead and on the back
of the head, to feel if she’s in the center of her head. This gentle
touch also reminds the person to be centered. Of course, always
ask for permission to touch, including children. With practice, you’ll
see clairvoyantly if she’s in her room or floating above it, scrunched
over in part of it, or in charge on her throne.
See if you can wash gold light all through the room. If
there’s a block, clear it out by calling in a humming bird to drain it
like nectar into her beak. Dan saw a dark spot in his room and
cleaned it out by imagining suctioning it through a PVC pipe. Check
the room to see if anyone else is there or perhaps an object you
didn’t put in your room. This includes pets; my dog often gets in to
say hello when I’m away on a trip. If you’re aware of others in your
room, send them down the trap door, down the fire station pole,
or laundry shoot to a fun event outside.
Someone may try to come into your command center consciously
or unconsciously because they want to know what you
know, want to control you, or want to be close to you—all kinds
of reasons. You may have felt you couldn’t get someone out of your
mind and had obsessive thoughts about him. This intense focus on
you by someone else can give you a headache, make your head feel
fuzzy, or influence your thinking. The rule is simple; no one should
be in your space but you. This includes parents in kids’ spaces; parents
should consciously pull their energy out of their children’s
heads to give them room to grow. Teaching them to imagine this
control room will minimize resistance and rebellion as they feel
To clean out other people’s energy, don’t try to resist, or
work hard to push them out, as this will keep them around your
space by cementing the connection between you, like a tangled
crosshatch. Think of the Chinese straw tube toy where you insert
your index fingers; they get stuck when you struggle to pull them
out and easily slide out when you relax. Remember, what you resist
persists. Just be amused and think of a fun activity for visitors to do
outside, like a party with tasty treats, a dance band, and lively conversation.
Send a parachute or a flying carpet to carry out people
in your space or whatever fun image you like.
Students ask me, “What if I like that person and want him
near me?” No matter how much you love someone, his or her
vibration in your space isn’t the same as yours and doesn’t belong,
like putting the wrong kind of gas in an engine. Imagine a rose for
you and one for your friend or family member outside your aura
and put a fine gold line of communication between the two of you
to feel in harmony, without being joined like Siamese twins.
Even people in love need some room between them to see
each other clearly and have plenty of room to expand. If you hold
a book right next to your eyes, you can’t read it. Or if plants grow
too close to each other, they don’t get enough sun or water. In contrast,
the popular culture conditions us that love is obsessive closeness.
It’s neurotic to believe “Without you, I’m nothing;” “I’ve got
you under my skin, deep in the heart of me;” and “I think about you
night and day,” and other parasitic song lyrics.
Here’s how Cathy cleans out other people’s energy:
In my room I concentrate on only thinking of the present. I set
the date and time in the morning on my fancy old mantle clock.
Whenever a person or distracting thought appears in my room,
I use a giant blue helium balloon with a big magnet in it to
catch all. Then I cut its string and imagine it floating up into
the sky, through my open skylight, until I can no longer see it.
The common tendency is to leave the body or disassociate
when we feel upset, bored, scared, lonely, confused, or invaded by
others’ energy. It takes practice to become aware of when you’ve
checked out and to decide to come back in your body. Just touch
the center of your forehead as a trigger to get back in your control
room and tell yourself, “Be in the center of my head.” Check to
make sure you’re the only one there and it will be easier to steer
your day in the direction you want it to go, rather than reacting to
what others expect.
We can be thrown off center, out of the still eye of the hurricane
into the whirlwind, by other people’s attempt to program or
control us. People often expect stereotypical behavior on the basis
of gender, age, ethnicity, hair color, height or job status. Ask any
short blond woman or person of color about stereotypes. Other
influences that move us off center are unrealistic expectations (our
own and others) and the body itself. Its hormones, allergies, cravings,
addictions and trauma memories can influence us to make
unhealthy choices. To regain the center stillpoint we can meditate,
pray, do clairvoyant readings and energy balancings (see Sections III
and IV), exercise regularly, do journal writing, and be in the command
chair in the center of the head.
Think about making any blocks or discomfort in your body
heavy, letting gravity flush them down the grounding cord. Sometimes
I just imagine a big concrete drain pipe when I’m releasing
something intense. You can also see negative emotions as colors,
like green for jealousy, and drain them down the cord. John
includes music in his waterfall grounding pipe; “As i sit in my CEO
chair the sound it produces is soothing to my soul.”
If you start to get off balance or tense, if someone is angry
with you or manipulating you, go to the center of your head. If your
mind feels fuzzy, if you can’t think clearly, or if you get a headache,
check the room in the center of your head for other people or
things. Think about being a radio and tuning clearly to your own
station to get rid of the static caused by receiving signals from other
people’s stations. You’re practicing being the driver of your own
car, rather than sitting in the back trying to drive with your big toe
on the wheel, while the passengers tell you what to do. You can
anchor this feeling of centeredness with a Neuro Linguistic Pr0gramming trigger by touching a spot on your body, such as your
knee, and giving instructions to your unconscious mind to center
whenever the spot is touched or you think of touching it.
Steffy reports on her success:
Just the other night I got into an argument with my roommate,
so I grounded myself, got into the center of my head, and tried
to deal with the situation with an open mind, instead of getting
all upset and yelling back. The problem got resolved a lot
faster than normal. I’m feeling more in control of myself and
the direction of my energy.
Jim, a Pennsylvania teacher, works with troubled teens. He
tried the centering tool with his students.
All my students are 15 to 16, waiting trial for murder,
locked up for at least one year or more. We have tried some
TM [Transcendental Meditation] and Qigong [Chinese meditative
movement and breathing] work and energy techniques
balancing the left and right brain. They could sit for a
few minutes but the energy was not centered or all there. Yesterday,
we started with a hand exercise, open and close, and I
had them think “release everything to the universe and absorb
in clean energy.”
We then tried chair-in-the-brain clearing and grounding
work. The students sat for three minutes and agreed it was
easier than just imagining, “Oh well, let go,” when a thought
enters their minds. We had a great discussion of how the heart
was a door to the soul which we shared with God and are all
connected. We did the chair-in-the head work for four minutes
without one word or distraction from 13 boys. Energy was
strong, clear and centered.